No matter how much you want your child to grow in a rainbow-colored world, surrounded with love, smiles, and positivity 24/7, there will always be moments when you will find yourself controlling your anger as a parent.
Children will always find a way to irritate your nerves. During those times, you want to follow emotional coaching for parents.
HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO CONTROL YOUR ANGER
1) Count to 10 if you feel like “exploding.”
This tiny pause will help you take your mind off the matter for a second and cool down. Hopefully, this cool-down period will you to replace your angry words with calm words. Therefore, you won’t have said something you will regret.
2) Explain to a kid that you are mad because of his behavior
Be very careful when explaining the reason you are irritated. Convey to a child the idea that it is the kid’s actions that make you mad, not the kid itself. Be sure to make this distinction very clear!
A kid (especially 2-4 years old) does not really understand what mood you are in and how much it takes for you to reach that boiling point. The fact is that the child is simply exploring the world as well as your limits.
When you feel angry with the kid, just explain “why.”Make sure not to blame it for being not ready yet, for example. You can calmly explain your dissatisfaction by saying, “I’m unhappy because you are not dressed yet. It would really disappoint me if we were late because of this.”
In case a kid does not listen; you can do the next thing. Instead of threatening, kneel closely in front of it so that you are eye-level and explain the matter calmly. It is effective, timesaving and you learn to be a calm parent at the same time.
3) Draw a line for what is allowed for child and for you, too
Create a “list” of what is allowed and acceptable; set some limitations. You need to draw a distinction between what is “okay” and “not okay.”
For example, if a child drew something on the wall, do not start yelling and hope that it will understand everything by itself. Unfortunately, it will take more than one time before the baby understands what is wrong and what is forbidden to do.
Therefore, save your energy, and do not expect too much from a child, be patient, and talk to your kid.
You can raise your voice at a child only if it violently ignores a well-known “no” (and the punishment must follow right away).
Children are clumsy, remember this. Sometimes children are yelled at even when they do something from the “allowed” list.
For example, when a kid spills some water over itself after you dress them. Before you scold them, think if it is worth it. Ask yourself if they actually did anything wrong and whether they deserve punishment. This is not something that you have to stress out yourself and your kid for.
However, if you’ve repeated a hundred times that opening a window and standing on a windowsill is forbidden, you can punish a kid if it ignores this rule.
The matter of safety is to be taken extremely seriously. Even if you “explode” in this situation, do not be too hard on yourself. Remind yourself that it is okay to get angry in stressful situations but calm parents make happy kids.
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